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When you abuse alcohol, you continue to drink even though you know your drinking is causing problems. You might be dependent on alcohol if you have three or more of the following problems in a year: Alcoholism is a long-term (chronic) disease. Like many other diseases, it has a course that can be predicted, has known symptoms, and is influenced by your genes and your life situation.

Verbal abusers love to use constructive criticism to beat a spouse down. These may be comments about the way you dress, talk or your intelligence. I call this the “walking on eggs shells” syndrome because you are living with someone who goes verbally ballistic for very little cause.

If your spouse is constantly criticizing you, “for your own good,” be careful. Any comment to make you feel inferior and ashamed is what the abuser is attempting. Did one of the kids leave a toy in the middle of the floor? No threat should be taken lightly, even if your spouse tells you they are only joking, especially if it causes you to change behaviors or to feel on guard in the relationship.

In addition, many women cannot rely on the criminal justice system due to institutional barriers, including discrimination or homophobia.

Research indicates that financial abuse is experienced in 98% of abusive relationships and surveys of survivors reflect that concerns over their ability to provide financially for themselves and their children was one of the top reason for staying in or returning to a battering relationship.

The use of words to punish is a very covert attempt to control and regardless of how loving your spouse may appear to be, verbal abuse is wrong and can be as harmful as physical abuse. There is no doubt, once you have been hit, that you have been physically abused. There are names that are obvious and, without question abusive.

You don’t second guess yourself because the bruises and scars are visible proof that abuse has taken place. The damage is internal, there are no physical bruises or scars, just a wounded spirit, and sense of self-esteem. Then there are the covert, veiled attempts to put a spouse down that are harder to identify. Critical, sarcastic, mocking words meant to put you down either alone or in front of other people.

As with all forms of abuse, it occurs across all socio-economic, educational and racial and ethnic groups.