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Dating within the military

Dating someone in the military isn’t as glamorous as Hollywood makes it appear.

When this occurs between officers and enlisted service members or between some other hierarchical pairing, as between a commander and an officer or enlisted soldier in her command, it can potentially undermine the chain of command, order, and discipline.

Not all contact between enlisted persons and officers or subordinates and superiors is prohibited, just contact that would compromise (or have the appearance of compromising) order, discipline, and the chain of command.

As the significant other, you will not get more details than necessary on anything unless you poke and prod. Related: The unconventional relationship is the norm in the military. However, in the civilian world, or in a relationship, it may be a little hard to deal with. Especially if he is coming from a higher rank, it may be increasingly difficult for him to “fall in line” with civilian life. Not every soldier comes home with post-traumatic stress.

It is a lot of work to break down those barriers and gain enough trust for him open up and be vulnerable. You need to understand this and realize how difficult it is. However, for those who do, there is nothing wrong with that.

Looking for love amid deployments, exercises, and regular duty station moves across the world is daunting even for the most avid believers in love and all that other crap you see in Disney movies during which I pretend very hard not to cry. You don’t know her because she lived across town and had to fly her private jet on spy missions a lot. Yes, there are variations, but these are the main groupings of people you’ll wind up taking for dinner, drinks, and dancing (or push-up contests, depending) while you wear a uniform. Like, for instance, an Imaginary Insecure Fetishist.

Even so, the search for love and companionship is important to the mental well-being of everyone, regardless of the terrible life choices they’ve made. If the first thing someone you’re on a date with asks you is “What’s your MOS? Well let’s see, I’ve already had three soldiers, four airmen, and a Coast Guardsman. For those who don’t watch Shark Week, a remora is one of those sucker fish that attaches itself to the stomach of a shark or other large fish and feeds off its scraps. These are the people who cannot handle the fact that you, as a military member, are generally seen as tougher than the average person. In that case, you are undoubtedly from my old duty station. Mooney is sarcastic goofball who works as a writer and producer in New York City.

This is based solely on the experiences of my veteran friends, as well as my own with a past paramour. The military teaches service members to trust their unit, and few others. If he comes to you with a problem, chances are he’ll talk about it until he no longer wants to and then go into lockdown. That is not a good thing or a bad thing, that is just a matter of fact and something you need to understand. Military men are used to their band of brothers, and are bred to be loyal and protective. Some branches of the military (I’m looking at you, Marines) have a feeling of superiority over others.